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There are only two ways to go through Valentine’s Day: with joy or misery. It’s your choice. There are people that greet this holiday with great excitement, and others who absolutely dread it. At Reality-Based Leadership, this is one of our favorite holidays because so much of our work is rooted in love! But if you’re one of the haters, here’s the good news: Suffering on this love holiday is completely optional!

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Here are three pieces of advice to get you through – regardless of your relationship status:

  1. Stop judging and start helping. What if the gift you gave this year to a loved one, a family member, or even a co-worker, was the benefit of the doubt, or tolerance, or forgiveness? That way, it looks like you’re doing it for someone else, but you’re actually doing it for you. It’s a selfish act – in the best way possible!
  1. Love what is. What if the perfect Valentine’s Day is the very one happening right in front of you. I mean, what if it were just a movie you weren’t in charge of, you just got to watch it and enjoy it? This leads me to a final piece of advice…
  1.  Approach this holiday with great expectancy but not expectations. Expectancy means this is going to be fabulous, but I don’t have to get into the details. If you’re clear on what kind of Valentine’s Day you want, you go do that. You go first. Remember, that which is missing from a situation is that which you’re not giving. When I really start to suffer is when I have expectations. Expectations are when I start to apply what I believe this holiday should be about to everyone around me, and I start writing that script for you. Just because I may think Valentine’s Day is a horrible, fake, made-up holiday for lovers, doesn’t mean that I can judge you because you think it’s the best day of the year, and enjoy spending a fancy night out with your loved one.

So today – no matter which side of the fence you’re on, you’ll benefit when you stop the judging and start helping. Be that change you want to see in the world.

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