Reality-Based Leadership
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When you come into a new leadership role, it's common for your ego to come out to play. In this case, fear took over the ability to move to action, stories overrode facts, victims and villains were alive and well. But when you can move beyond your ego and fear, and give yourself some compassion, it's amazing how well you will be able to lead.

Check out Steven's book, Along the Way

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With the frequent updates and changes to our daily lives because of COVID-19, I am sure many of you are feeling uncertain, scared, or just not sure how to lead at this time. I wanted to share some thoughts about how I'm trying to move through this rapidly changing and uncertain world at this time, and I hope it helps you in some way.

This week, I'm answering a fan letter with one of my favorite people and personal lifestyle coach, Steven Matthew Adams. This letter is all about how to practically - in real-life - move beyond your ego on a daily basis. What can you do to stay neutral in your behaviors and responses, how can you toggle up in spite of your realities? This isn't difficult to do, it just takes some daily practice. I hope you enjoy!

Check out Steven's book, Along the Way.

Submit your Dear Cy Letter anonymously here!

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This week's Dear Cy letter is from someone leading a multi-disciplinary team that takes care of patients with chronic diseases. She isn't a nurse herself and believes that her team doesn't respect her as a leader because of it. She admits being conflict-averse and should have taken a more pro-active approach. Ultimately she wants to know how to hone her skills and put her ego aside to be a more effective leader.

Send me your Dear Cy letters! I'd love to answer your question. Submit it anonymously here.

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Alex and I are answering a fan letter this week from a mom who writes about working hard to get a degree in early childhood education but then finds herself in a completely different role as a cook in the center where she is working. How she can find the opportunity in this role when she has worked so hard to obtain a career in teaching? We're going to talk about how your ego gets in the way and reframing this situation to grow where you are planted.

Send me your Dear Cy letters! I'd love to answer your question. Submit it anonymously here: https://bit.ly/35jTfiX

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This week, we're back to answering Dear Cy letters, and I think you're going to love this week's topic: Burnout. This is a big topic right now, especially for healthcare folks, but it's something we can all experience regardless of our job or industry. We're going to dive into handling burnout from a manager/leader standpoint, as well as managing your own wellbeing and self-care. I'm also going to cover something I call energy management and why unplugging is not always the solution!

Hear more on this topic in my podcast with Dr. Sasha Shillcutt: https://bit.ly/39LaATQ

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This week, I wanted to share a brief overview of the top 5 sources of drama at work that I found in my research. I know many of you have heard me talk about ego as a main source of drama, but did you know there are 4 other major contributors? Here's the great news: If we can understand these sources of drama, and work to manage them for ourselves and our teams, there’s nothing that can stop you from producing amazing results and reaching your potential, not to mention living a happier and more peaceful life. I hope you enjoy listening in.

More info about the sources of drama in my book, No Ego. https://amzn.to/2vqHWIE

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Today I'm doing a little something special. I'm sharing a keynote that will help you understand the why behind your stress & frustration at work, or why you don't get the results that you want. I also share the tools and techniques you can use immediately at work or at home. No matter if you are a leader or an individual contributor, this episode will help you find greater peace, happiness, and success in life.

Have a workplace drama question for me? Send me your "Dear Cy" letter here and it may be featured on an upcoming episode!

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This week Alex and I are diving into two fan letters where the ego really wants to take hold and be right. One letter deals with a person trying to get a co-worker to change their victim behaviors, lack of accountability and unwillingness to get on board. The second letter asks how they can deal with a new manager that is less experienced than they are. Tons of juicy content in this episode that you can't miss!

Submit your own Dear Cy letter to me anonymously here: https://bit.ly/35jTfiX

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This week, we're back to answering fan letters! And this one is from a person who is in a complex, goal-oriented team that is frustrated by "unattainable" goals set by their boss, indicating that the team is also frustrated and unmotivated as a result. Said boss is also resistant to feedback and a poor communicator. Alex and I are going to deconstruct this letter and see if we can get down to the facts! Topics we'll cover: editing your story, leading with sympathy vs. empathy, shifting energy from "why we can't" to "how we could."

Find the tools we mentioned for free here: https://bit.ly/2NXrPJj

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I'm excited to introduce you to a friend and colleague, Dave McKeown, who blew my mind when I first heard him speak and found our messages are so well aligned. Dave is the Founder & CEO of Outfield Leadership, and is also a speaker, author, and trainer. We're talking about why with billions of dollars spent on leadership development, we're still not getting results. This episode shares our thoughts on how leaders can gain more power over their own development and increase their results.

Learn more about the book at www.SelfEvolvedLeader.com

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I'm so excited to be launching Season 3 of the No Ego Podcast! This season is dedicated to your in-depth letters as you work to practice RBL at work and home. Our first letter is from Kimberly. She works in an org where most have adopted RBL philosophy. However, she tells of how some people have written off the philosophy, even when she can see this philosophy is the answer to their problems. Bottom line, her question is: How can I handle the resistors?

Send me your 'Dear Cy' letter! https://bit.ly/35jTfiX

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I'm taking time in this episode to reflect on the key themes that caught my attention this year, as well as things I am entertaining in the new year to continue in my evolution and curation of my life. Some key themes you'll hear about is why I'm choosing self-care over self-soothing, my goals to stay curious longer and not naming things too soon, as well as a preview of my next book, which will be a personal reflection on how life is messy but we can still live happy.

Season 3 starts January 13! Have a question for me? Submit it here: https://bit.ly/35jTfiX

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The final episode in this Q&A series has more great workplace drama topics, including:

• how to have tough conversations with employees
• how to roll out the employee value equation with your team
• overcoming your fear of speaking up, especially when dealing with someone in power

Learn about our Certification Program. Our next class is on March 18-20, 2020! https://bit.ly/2KQDqYM

Season 3 of the Podcast starts Jan. 13, 2020! I'll be answering your in-depth "Dear Cy" letters. Submit your own letter here: https://bit.ly/35jTfiX

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In the 3rd episode of this 4-part series, I'm sharing more of my Q&A with our Certified Facilitators. In today's episode, we're talking about how I use tools to manage people out of their ego's grip, including these tools:

- The Thinking-Inside-the-Box Tool to increase individual commitment and accountability
- The SBAR Tool to empower people to solve their own problems
- The Edit Your Story tool to move people out of venting

Learn about our Certification Program. Our next class is on March 18-20, 2020! https://bit.ly/2KQDqYM

I'd love to have you join me on the Ditch the Drama Tour! Get your tickets now: https://bit.ly/369jVTQ

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