Reality-Based Leadership
The Podcast

This week, I'm continuing with the 4-part series from Certification where I'm doing some live Q&A. We're getting into why we need to filter our engagement surveys by accountability, how leaders can create a reality-based culture, sharing a feeling vs. venting, and how leaders can stop enabling bad behavior.

Learn more about our Certification Program. Our next class is on March 18-20, 2020! https://bit.ly/2KQDqYM

Join me on the Ditch the Drama Tour! Get your tickets now: https://bit.ly/369jVTQ

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I think you're going to love this exclusive 4-part Q&A session with our Certified Facilitators where I talk candidly about:

- the toggle switch concept, and why it's important for both leaders and employees

- how to effectively use self-reflection questions to bypass ego

- how leaders hinder accountability

- managing employees who vent and share unhelpful opinions

- how to create shared accountability in meetings

- why engagement has everything to do with us; not our circumstances.

Learn about our Certification Program: https://bit.ly/2KQDqYM

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I've known Robb Holman for years and we're both out there speaking and training to change hearts and minds! I fell in love with Robb's first book, Lead the Way, which helps leaders self-reflect on their value from the inside, and now in his new book coming out this week, All In, he teaches us how to build trust, bring out the best in each other and proactively connect with our teams.

Learn more at GetAllInBook.com

Join me on the Ditch the Drama Tour: RealityBasedLeadership.com/DTD2020

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Dr. Lynn Marie Morski is a quitting evangelist. She helps people quit strategically through her book, Quitting by Design, and her podcast, Quit Happens, along with speaking and coaching. I first heard her speak this year and was in love with her humorous presentation and her practical tips for quitting those things in our life that are holding us back from greater joy and peace. I especially loved creating the "no" list!

Buy her book at https://quittingbydesign.com/
Follow her on Instagram @quittingbydesign

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I'm reposting this very special podcast that I recorded last year around Thanksgiving. As we are upon the holiday season in our country, I find myself reflecting on gratitude and what it means in my life. In this episode, I'm talking about my view of gratitude, how we can go beyond only being grateful what you agree with or are happy about, and learning how to move to a place beyond ego where you can find gratitude in all things.

Loving this podcast? Leave me a rating and a review! I'd be so grateful.

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In this week's episode, I'm answering two fan questions about how to handle difficult employee situations, including coaching the difference between sharing feelings and venting, and getting people to focus on their own business and "stay in their lane."

Questions answered:

- What is the difference between sharing a feeling vs. venting?

-Do you have any tips on helping keep employees in their own lane?

Season 3 of the Podcast is coming! Submit a letter to me with your workplace drama questions and I may answer it on an upcoming show! https://bit.ly/2Pc9LKa

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Ever felt like you are high-functioning and killing it at work, and then your relationships at home suffer or you don't have the energy to put into them? My guests Dr. Mark and Ali Novitsky help us understand why this happens to couples and how can we move towards greater awareness and understanding, and working just as hard at our personal relationships as we do our work relationships.

Learn more about Ali: https://mindbodymarriage.com/

Learn more about Mark: https://www.novitskymd.com/

Resuscitate Your Marriage Podcast: https://apple.co/2BLqeQ1

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My guest this week is a clinical and forensic neuropsychologist and co-host of The Doctors. She regularly appears as an expert psychologist on TV and is the author of Stop Self-Sabotage. In our chat, Dr. Ho shares the 4 factors that trigger self-sabotage as well as practical techniques for moving beyond these negative thought patterns. We also talk about the imposter syndrome, aligning values with your goals and how to better handle change.

Follow Judy @drjudyho

Buy her book: Stop Self-Sabotage

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In our 4th and final episode in this series, Dr. Sasha Shillcutt and I are talking about how we as women tend to play small, minimize our successes and think, it's just too good to be true. The reality is that these thoughts are rooted in fear and scarcity, and we can all choose to move beyond this negative self-talk in order to achieve more joy in our lives.

We'd love it if you shared this series with all the women in your life!

Follow both of us @cywakeman and @become_brave_enough

Have a question for us? Submit it anonymously here: https://bit.ly/2Pc9LKa

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I'm excited to introduce you to Safi Bahcall, a physicist, entrepreneur, and the bestselling author of Loonshots. Safi talks about the competing forces in a company that suddenly change from embracing wild new ideas to rigidly rejecting them. So many organizations are focused on culture, but Safi emphasizes the importance of small shifts in the structure of an organization that can have a radical breakthrough in group behavior.

Buy Loonshots: loonshots.com

Follow Safi @SafiBahcall

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In our 3rd episode of this 4-part podcast series, Sasha Shillcutt and I are addressing another big thing that holds women back: our misconceptions around failure and how we can move on from it. We’ll also talk about the limiting factors of internalizing failures without properly reflecting on them.

Follow Sasha @become_brave_enough

Have a question for us? Submit it anonymously here: https://bit.ly/2Pc9LKa

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I asked for your questions about the philosophy a week or so ago and got over 100 responses! I'm answering 2 of them today with Alex Dorr, our VP of People Evolution.

"I don't always have 10 minutes to react without emotion. Sometimes I feel like I need 10 hours to respond with grace! However, a response is often needed in 10 seconds. How can I maneuver these 'right now' situations?" - Suzy Kraemer

"How can I coach the highly-engaged but low-accountable employee, especially when there is a group of them?" - Angela Feldkamp Beck

SBAR Tool: http://bit.ly/2InNWFQ

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In episode #2 of this 4-part series on limiting beliefs that hold women back, Sasha Shillcut and I are discussing preconceived notions we have of women around us, comparison, competition and stereotypes and the toxic roles they play in our relationships. We’ll cover breaking down the stories we tell ourselves so that we can separate the drama and misery from peace and joy.

Follow Sasha @become_brave_enough

Have a question for us? Submit it anonymously here: https://bit.ly/2Pc9LKa

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Alex Dorr (VP of People Evolution and Speaker/Trainer with RBL) and I are riffing on a bunch of great topics around change today that we commonly hear or see on the road. Topics we cover include:

- How to handle change fatigue

- Why we resist change and how to develop resilience

- Why standardization is your friend

- What's yours and what is the organization's when it comes to decisions

Follow Alex @alexmdorr and listen to his podcast, The Carvery: http://bit.ly/alexdorr

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Ladies, I'm so excited to share this series with you, posting every Wednesday for the next 4 weeks. Dr. Sasha Shillcut and I are going to be breaking down the most common limiting beliefs that hold women back and ultimately limit our success and happiness. This week we're going to tackle a major thought distortion we all struggle with: All or nothing thinking! We'll also talk about how perfectionism keeps us from doing brave new things.Follow Sasha @become_brave_enough‍Have a question for us? Submit it anonymously here: https://bit.ly/2Pc9LKa